Love your kids

Yesterday I read an article about this blogger who penned his thoughts about how he loved his one child more than the other. He dared anyone to disagree saying as parents we all love one of our kids more than the other(s).

The guy couldn't be more wrong.

As a parent I have had ebbs and flows with my kids where we've had more in common with one another at certain times of our lives. I imagine I'm no different than millions of other parents across the world. 

Rebekah, Heather, Bronwyn and Tavish.

My eldest daughter, Rebekah, used to play with me constantly when she was little. I was the engine that powered her wagon, the guy who gave her under-doggies on the swings at the park and when her brother Tavish came along I would take her to matinee movies so Mom and her new brother could take afternoon naps. Those were precious moments in my life, ones I'll never forget.

Today though, Rebekah is 14 and wants very little to do with me except to give her money and drive her to the mall. Most of my time is now diverted to Tavish and Bronwyn who still enjoy our play times together. Does this mean I love Tavish and Bronwyn more than Rebekah? No way! The younger two just enjoy my goofiness more than their older sister. I'm sure one day they too will find me lame when they become teenagers and I can live with that because I know my lameness is a phase and eventually they'll grow out of their teens.

Another point I completely disagreed with regarding this blogger's point of view was associating his interests with those of his kids. If Child A enjoys hockey and Dad enjoys hockey but Child B prefers chess that doesn't mean you love Child A more than Child B. Do not associate your child's interests and how those interests compare with your own and equate it with love. Everybody is different and it's a good thing. If everyone was like me I think I'd lose my mind! One of me is enough.

My children are the embodiment of the love I have with my wife, Heather. You can't love love more than love so how could you love one of your kids more than the others? You can't.

Ordinarily I'd read a blog I disagreed with and shrug it off but this one disturbed me because it was so off-base. Could you imagine being one of this blogger's kids and reading what Dad wrote? Talk about devastating.

I'm all for freedom of speech so sometimes you just have to let people have their say and agree to disagree. This is one of those cases.

Now I've had my say. What do you think? Is it possible for you to love one of your kids more than the others?